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Why Certain Areas Of Our Life Don't Work.
When an area of your life isn't working, this area may seem to be the problem, but it's not. It's a symptom of an underlying condition that creates the problem.To say this another way, we create the problem.
Now this may sound like a harsh thing to say, but it's actually great news. If you create the problem, you can un-create it. To un-create a problem, you must first discover how you created it.
To start the process of discovering your role in a problem, find an area of your life that isn't working. Where do you suffer? What is the main area of your life that doesn't work?
Once you identify the area you want to work on, the next step is to learn why this area of life is the way that it is. To answer this, let's look at four elements that are always present when an area of life doesn't work.
1. There is an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on.
Notice that this is definitely an area of life where you can't flow. You are either fighting and resisting the truth of your circumstances or you are hanging on.
Either way, you operate in a state of fear and upset. This in turn destroys your ability to see clearly. You close down inside and you get tunnel vision. All you can do is fight, resist or hang on.
This then destroys love and magnifies the problem. You literally create a state of opposition and resistance against yourself.
2. You are operating in a state of tunnel vision.
Subconsciously, your situation is perceived as a threat to your survival. In an automatic act of protection, you put all your focus on eliminating the threat. This then creates a state of tunnel vision that destroys your ability to see what needs to be done.
Instead of looking for solutions, all your focus is on fighting, resisting or hanging on. Instead of having your situation clear up, you make it worse.
3. You can't see the truth of your situation.
There is a truth that you are fighting. There is something in your life that you don't like. It is the way that it is, but you can't see it. When you can't see the truth, you can't see what you need to do.
Here is an example.
I used to work with someone that didn't keep her word. I would ask her to do something and she would promise to do it. I would then rely on her, and when she didn't do what she promised, I got in trouble.
For years, I did everything I could to get her to keep her word with me, but nothing worked. I kept relying on her and I kept getting in trouble. I would then get upset and she would get worse.
Finally I had a realization that changed everything. I realized that she was unreliable. No matter how much I hated it, this was still the truth. She was unreliable. I couldn't rely on her.
Her unreliability would have been obvious to any one else, but I couldn't see it. I couldn't see the truth because I didn't want that to be the truth. I wanted her to be reliable.
I would then interact with her based on the way I wanted her to be instead of the way that she was. This is crazy, but this is what I did.
Once I could tell the truth of the way she was, I could see what I needed to do. I needed to stop relying on her. The moment I surrendered to the truth, the problem cleared up.
The same thing is happening in any area of your life that isn't working. There is a truth that you are fighting. Once you discover what it is and surrender to it, the problem clears up.
4. There is a hidden hurt from the past that you are avoiding.
The resisting, the tunnel vision and the inability to see the truth are all produced by an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a hidden hurt from the past. It's the avoidance of this hurt that forces us to act in a way that sabotages our lives.
Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. In the next lesson, I'm going to show you how.
DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO GET RICH THE PIC WAY?
WITHIN 30 DAYS OF CONSISTENT FOCUS, YOU CAN MAKE IT. GIVE IT A TRY.
Now this may sound like a harsh thing to say, but it's actually great news. If you create the problem, you can un-create it. To un-create a problem, you must first discover how you created it.
To start the process of discovering your role in a problem, find an area of your life that isn't working. Where do you suffer? What is the main area of your life that doesn't work?
Once you identify the area you want to work on, the next step is to learn why this area of life is the way that it is. To answer this, let's look at four elements that are always present when an area of life doesn't work.
1. There is an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on.
Notice that this is definitely an area of life where you can't flow. You are either fighting and resisting the truth of your circumstances or you are hanging on.
Either way, you operate in a state of fear and upset. This in turn destroys your ability to see clearly. You close down inside and you get tunnel vision. All you can do is fight, resist or hang on.
This then destroys love and magnifies the problem. You literally create a state of opposition and resistance against yourself.
2. You are operating in a state of tunnel vision.
Subconsciously, your situation is perceived as a threat to your survival. In an automatic act of protection, you put all your focus on eliminating the threat. This then creates a state of tunnel vision that destroys your ability to see what needs to be done.
Instead of looking for solutions, all your focus is on fighting, resisting or hanging on. Instead of having your situation clear up, you make it worse.
3. You can't see the truth of your situation.
There is a truth that you are fighting. There is something in your life that you don't like. It is the way that it is, but you can't see it. When you can't see the truth, you can't see what you need to do.
Here is an example.
I used to work with someone that didn't keep her word. I would ask her to do something and she would promise to do it. I would then rely on her, and when she didn't do what she promised, I got in trouble.
For years, I did everything I could to get her to keep her word with me, but nothing worked. I kept relying on her and I kept getting in trouble. I would then get upset and she would get worse.
Finally I had a realization that changed everything. I realized that she was unreliable. No matter how much I hated it, this was still the truth. She was unreliable. I couldn't rely on her.
Her unreliability would have been obvious to any one else, but I couldn't see it. I couldn't see the truth because I didn't want that to be the truth. I wanted her to be reliable.
I would then interact with her based on the way I wanted her to be instead of the way that she was. This is crazy, but this is what I did.
Once I could tell the truth of the way she was, I could see what I needed to do. I needed to stop relying on her. The moment I surrendered to the truth, the problem cleared up.
The same thing is happening in any area of your life that isn't working. There is a truth that you are fighting. Once you discover what it is and surrender to it, the problem clears up.
4. There is a hidden hurt from the past that you are avoiding.
The resisting, the tunnel vision and the inability to see the truth are all produced by an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a hidden hurt from the past. It's the avoidance of this hurt that forces us to act in a way that sabotages our lives.
Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. In the next lesson, I'm going to show you how.
DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO GET RICH THE PIC WAY?
WITHIN 30 DAYS OF CONSISTENT FOCUS, YOU CAN MAKE IT. GIVE IT A TRY.
