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Every one of us has a hidden hurt from the past that runs our life. The automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt is responsible for all our upsets, all our self-sabotaging behavior and all our suffering. Every aspect of life that doesn't work can be traced to this hurt.

Here is how it works:
When you were a little child, you were pure love. You were happy, alive, and free. Unfortunately, you were born into a world that suppresses this state. As a result, you got hurt, and you got hurt a lot.

As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself. In a moment of hurt, you bought the notion that you were worthless, not good enough, a failure, not worth loving, or in some other way, not okay.

This wasn't the truth, but to a little child, it was the only explanation that made any sense at the time. You then hated the very notion that you created. "No one can ever love me if I'm worthless. Worthless is a horrible way to be."

The moment you bought the notion that you were not okay, you created a mechanism that would then sabotage the rest of your life. From that moment on, the underlying focus of your life would be to avoid this hurt.

It's the automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt that sabotages our lives. Anything that triggers this hurt is perceived as a threat. To avoid this threat, we fight, resist, hang on and withdraw. This in turn destroys love and gives power to whatever we are resisting.

Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. Until you heal this hurt, you will be forced to repeat the past.

Ultimately, this hurt will always be some form of feeling "not okay." It's not the truth that you are this way; it's just a hurt. The truth and the hurt are totally separate.

To find your hurt, look for the words of "not okay" that are particularly painful. Are you worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, inferior, or a failure?

Don't look to see if it's true that you are this way. It's not the truth. Look to see if it would be painful if you were this way. The more painful the words, the closer you are to your hurt.
Here are some places to look:

1. What are your upsets? - Every time you have been upset will be a time when this hurt has been triggered. That's why you got upset. Write down every upset you can think of. Then go to the hurt that's under each upset, and ask yourself, "According to the hurt, what do those circumstances say about me?"

For example, if someone leaves you, this may say that you are not worth loving. If you are fired from a job, this may say that you are a failure. Find the words that hurt the most.

2. How is your relationship with your parents? - If you have had a difficult relationship with one or both of your parents, this is probably where your hurt began. Go back in time and put yourself in the hurt that you experienced as a child. What did your parents imply about you in their words and actions?

3. What do you resist in your parents? - Any characteristic that you resist in another person is an aspect of you that you resist in yourself. Find the characteristics that you resist most in your parents. Then notice how it would feel if you were this way. If this would be painful, write it down.

4. What are you driven toward? - Actually, we are never driven toward something; we are driven from something. For example, if someone is driven to succeed, that person is running from failure. If someone has to be loved, that person is running from some form of being unlovable. Find what you are driven toward and look for the opposite.

5. What are your biggest fears? - Make a list of all your fears. Then for each fear, find the hurt that you are avoiding. What would it say about you if your fear were to come true?

6. What are the areas of your life that don't work? - Any area of your life that doesn't work is an area where you are resisting. You resist because this area of life triggers your hurt. List the primary areas of your life that don't work and find the hurt that's under the resistance. According to this hurt, what do those circumstances say about you?

Find the words that most accurately describe your hurt. Remember, you are not looking for the truth. You are looking for the hurt. For most people, the bottom line hurt is worthless. What is the hurt that runs your life?

After you find the hurt, the next step is to heal it. Fortunately, the process for healing this hurt is relatively easy. This is because the hurt isn't based on fact. It's something you made up as a child.

In a moment of hurt, you bought the notion that you were worthless, not worth loving, a failure, or whatever your issue is. You then fought the very notion that you created. It's the fighting and resisting this notion that gives it all its power.

To have your hurt lose its power, you have to do the opposite of fighting it. You need to make peace with this part of yourself. As you do this, the hurt loses power and disappears.

As you own all the aspects of you, the good, the bad and the ugly, you become whole and complete. You cannot be threatened and you cannot be hurt. You become more able to flow with life. You become more effective and more able to have your dreams come true.

Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. It's the key to creating a life that works for you instead of against you.


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When an area of your life isn't working, this area may seem to be the problem, but it's not. It's a symptom of an underlying condition that creates the problem.To say this another way, we create the problem.

Now this may sound like a harsh thing to say, but it's actually great news. If you create the problem, you can un-create it. To un-create a problem, you must first discover how you created it.

To start the process of discovering your role in a problem, find an area of your life that isn't working. Where do you suffer? What is the main area of your life that doesn't work?
Once you identify the area you want to work on, the next step is to learn why this area of life is the way that it is. To answer this, let's look at four elements that are always present when an area of life doesn't work.

1. There is an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on.
Notice that this is definitely an area of life where you can't flow. You are either fighting and resisting the truth of your circumstances or you are hanging on.
Either way, you operate in a state of fear and upset. This in turn destroys your ability to see clearly. You close down inside and you get tunnel vision. All you can do is fight, resist or hang on.
This then destroys love and magnifies the problem. You literally create a state of opposition and resistance against yourself.

2. You are operating in a state of tunnel vision.
Subconsciously, your situation is perceived as a threat to your survival. In an automatic act of protection, you put all your focus on eliminating the threat. This then creates a state of tunnel vision that destroys your ability to see what needs to be done.
Instead of looking for solutions, all your focus is on fighting, resisting or hanging on. Instead of having your situation clear up, you make it worse.

3. You can't see the truth of your situation.
There is a truth that you are fighting. There is something in your life that you don't like. It is the way that it is, but you can't see it. When you can't see the truth, you can't see what you need to do.
Here is an example.
I used to work with someone that didn't keep her word. I would ask her to do something and she would promise to do it. I would then rely on her, and when she didn't do what she promised, I got in trouble.
For years, I did everything I could to get her to keep her word with me, but nothing worked. I kept relying on her and I kept getting in trouble. I would then get upset and she would get worse.
Finally I had a realization that changed everything. I realized that she was unreliable. No matter how much I hated it, this was still the truth. She was unreliable. I couldn't rely on her.
Her unreliability would have been obvious to any one else, but I couldn't see it. I couldn't see the truth because I didn't want that to be the truth. I wanted her to be reliable.
I would then interact with her based on the way I wanted her to be instead of the way that she was. This is crazy, but this is what I did.

Once I could tell the truth of the way she was, I could see what I needed to do. I needed to stop relying on her. The moment I surrendered to the truth, the problem cleared up.
The same thing is happening in any area of your life that isn't working. There is a truth that you are fighting. Once you discover what it is and surrender to it, the problem clears up.

4. There is a hidden hurt from the past that you are avoiding.
The resisting, the tunnel vision and the inability to see the truth are all produced by an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a hidden hurt from the past. It's the avoidance of this hurt that forces us to act in a way that sabotages our lives.

Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. In the next lesson, I'm going to show you how.


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WITHIN 30 DAYS OF CONSISTENT FOCUS, YOU CAN MAKE IT. GIVE IT A TRY.

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