Thursday, August 17, 2006

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Why Certain Areas Of Our Life Don't Work.

When an area of your life isn't working, this area may seem to be the problem, but it's not. It's a symptom of an underlying condition that creates the problem.To say this another way, we create the problem.
Now this may sound like a harsh thing to say, but it's actually great news. If you create the problem, you can un-create it. To un-create a problem, you must first discover how you created it.
To start the process of discovering your role in a problem, find an area of your life that isn't working. Where do you suffer? What is the main area of your life that doesn't work?
Once you identify the area you want to work on, the next step is to learn why this area of life is the way that it is. To answer this, let's look at four elements that are always present when an area of life doesn't work.

1. There is an underlying condition of resisting or hanging on.
Notice that this is definitely an area of life where you can't flow. You are either fighting and resisting the truth of your circumstances or you are hanging on.
Either way, you operate in a state of fear and upset. This in turn destroys your ability to see clearly. You close down inside and you get tunnel vision. All you can do is fight, resist or hang on.
This then destroys love and magnifies the problem. You literally create a state of opposition and resistance against yourself.

2. You are operating in a state of tunnel vision.
Subconsciously, your situation is perceived as a threat to your survival. In an automatic act of protection, you put all your focus on eliminating the threat. This then creates a state of tunnel vision that destroys your ability to see what needs to be done.
Instead of looking for solutions, all your focus is on fighting, resisting or hanging on. Instead of having your situation clear up, you make it worse.

3. You can't see the truth of your situation.
There is a truth that you are fighting. There is something in your life that you don't like. It is the way that it is, but you can't see it. When you can't see the truth, you can't see what you need to do.
Here is an example.
I used to work with someone that didn't keep her word. I would ask her to do something and she would promise to do it. I would then rely on her, and when she didn't do what she promised, I got in trouble.
For years, I did everything I could to get her to keep her word with me, but nothing worked. I kept relying on her and I kept getting in trouble. I would then get upset and she would get worse.
Finally I had a realization that changed everything. I realized that she was unreliable. No matter how much I hated it, this was still the truth. She was unreliable. I couldn't rely on her.
Her unreliability would have been obvious to any one else, but I couldn't see it. I couldn't see the truth because I didn't want that to be the truth. I wanted her to be reliable.
I would then interact with her based on the way I wanted her to be instead of the way that she was. This is crazy, but this is what I did.
Once I could tell the truth of the way she was, I could see what I needed to do. I needed to stop relying on her. The moment I surrendered to the truth, the problem cleared up.
The same thing is happening in any area of your life that isn't working. There is a truth that you are fighting. Once you discover what it is and surrender to it, the problem clears up.

4. There is a hidden hurt from the past that you are avoiding.
The resisting, the tunnel vision and the inability to see the truth are all produced by an automatic, subconscious avoidance of a hidden hurt from the past. It's the avoidance of this hurt that forces us to act in a way that sabotages our lives.
Finding and healing this hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. In the next lesson, I'm going to show you how.



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How Resisting Sabotages Our Lives

One of the most powerful ways that we create is through resisting. By our resisting, we magnify and give power to whatever we resist.

A good way to see this is to imagine four large, yellow balloons on the ceiling above you. Now, whatever you do, don't think about them. You just thought about them. Don't do that.
What happens when you try not to think about the yellow balloons? You think about them, and the more you resist the yellow balloons, the more balloons you get.

The same thing happens in every area of life. Whatever you resist becomes stronger and more solid. Your resisting actually gives it power. Here are some examples.

Find a time when someone resisted the way you are and tried to change you. How did you feel about changing? You didn't want to. You got more solid didn't you?

Have you ever hated a particular characteristic in another person? What happened to that characteristic when you resisted it? It grew.

What happens if you have a fear of losing someone? You feel threatened. You hang on and push the person away.

Any area of your life that doesn't work is an area where you are resisting -- and what you resist is the truth.

At any moment, your life is exactly the way that it is. The people in your life are the way that they are. You are the way that you are and the circumstances of your life are the way that they are.

Your feelings about it are totally, totally irrelevant. What's so is always what's so. Everything may change tomorrow, but at any moment, your situation is always exactly the way that it is.
When you can be at peace with the truth of what's so, you have peace of mind. You see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. You are creative and resourceful.
When you fight the truth, you create a state of fear and upset that destroys your ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdraw. This in turn makes your situation worse.

We think that upsets are caused by what happens, but they're not. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happens.
To see this in your life, select a recent upset. Then notice what would happen to the upset, if by some miracle, you were totally at peace with what happened. The upset would disappear.
This is because the upset wasn't caused by what happened. The upset was caused by fighting and resisting what happened. The moment you take away the fighting and resisting, the upset disappears.

If I spill a glass of water on you, you are going to be wet, and your feelings about it are totally irrelevant. No matter how you feel about it, you are still wet. If you are at peace with being wet, there will be no upset. If you fight being wet, you will be upset. And the more you fight being wet, the more upset you are going to be.

It's the inability to flow with life that creates all our suffering. By our resisting, we create a state of fear and upset that destroys our ability to see clearly. We then act in a way that destroys love and literally makes our situation worse.

Being able to flow with life is one of the keys to creating a life that works.
The first step in being able to flow with life is to discover how much you don't flow.
Look over your life and make a list of all the areas where you resist. Any area of your life that isn't working and any upset you have ever had will be an example of your resisting. Where can't you flow? What do you avoid? Where do you have fear and upset? Take a few minutes and write down everything you can think of.

As you do this exercise, notice how much your life has been about resisting. Then notice how irrelevant your resisting is. No matter how upset you may be, what's so is still what's so.
Notice how resisting the truth has sabotaged your life. Let this in.

Then notice how much more effective you would be and how much more enjoyable your life would be, if you could flow with whatever happens.


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WITHIN 30 DAYS OF CONSISTENT FOCUS, YOU CAN MAKE IT. GIVE IT A TRY.

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